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    Final Days in Africa

    Friday, May 6, 2011

    I am thinking I should write some final words on African soil. Try to capture these last hectic days and my thoughts on this adventure in Africa. I know it has not completely sunk in that leaving in a week may mean never seeing this city ~ this home ~ ever again. In farewell to this season of my life I thought I would have a two-part good-bye to Lagos…

    ( Main view from my living-room check out the mold growing up the side of the house) 

    The first being the complaining ~ so glad to put this crazy behind me. I have wanted to show a more honest side to our life here for the last three years. But when you are in the middle of something challenging you know is not going to change anytime soon ~ well I have chosen to look on the bright side and try to stay positive. I would love to take more pictures of our dilapidated compound but in no way would I want to be disrespectful to our company. Lets just say it is lower then the very ~ very lowest standards of Canada. I have after all these years finally taken (some very hurried) pictures of the most frustrating parts of my home.

    (Entrance to our home. Love the dirty paint and bright green mold, top left!)

    Living hear has it’s set backs. It is an incredibly dirty city. Trash is literally everywhere, burning and simply just rotting under the hot sun. It almost always stinks. I remember this summer we were driving through the rolling country hills near our home in Canada, and Marion made a statement “Canada is so clean” she said it as if it just dawned on her how polluted Lagos was. Since then she has had a very difficult time dealing with the garbage and smells of Africa.

    (Dryer vent running through my pantry...during laundry my pantry heats up and spoils my food)

    Another very challenging part of living in Lagos is working with staff… oh I know you are all thinking ‘sure Rose life is so hard having a house maid and driver…’ well honestly it is hard. It is not like having help in Canada. I have had two house staff in my time here and have had to fire both because of obvious theft. My last one just this week, days before I am leaving! They are moody, challenge everything you say, if it takes me one hour to clean the main floor I will have to allot five hours for my staff to do the same work. It is often more of headache then a help!
    With my driver I am constantly feeling like there is a game going on of how he can outwit me into getting something from me.

    (Black Mold!)

    Which leads to the third challenge of living in Nigeria. Nigerians have a worldwide reputation of being hostile and aggressive. Among each other and with foreigners. I have found the navigation of culture incredibly overwhelming. With three years under my belt I can honestly say I feel no more adjusted in understanding of this culture then when I first arrived.

    (Note the toliet...why oh why did they tuck it beside the sink?)

    Another huge stress I think every parent living in Nigeria carries is the weight of health and wellness for our families. Even with a large company like ours the medical system is terrible! At least every day I have a moment of fear of the ‘what if’. Roger and I agreed a while back that if anything happened from a broken bone to a heavy virus we would fly out to Europe and get treated there, which is honestly way easier said then done. For example sake, just recently we had a friend who suffered from a serious concussion and was blacked out for ten minutes. The Doctors here prescribed her antibiotics and vitamin C. I could go on and on with the ‘crazy medical story’ list. But would rather save those for face to face. I will sigh large and gratefully with relief once I land in Europe and know that stress is off my shoulders for good!

    (Giving us six inches of leg room...)

    To wrap this up…

    Last night Roger and I were saying that when you live in Lagos, you wake every morning wondering what the day will bring. There is always something that comes up that surprise and bewilders you. You simply can not plan too much in advance. The only success in succeeding in this country would be to have the attitude of rolling with the onslaught of daily punches!

    When it is over you realise you were much more adventurous then you ever could have imagined, and are capable of things you never dreamed you were capable of. I am sure I will look back on the challenges of my time here in a hazy ‘as if that really happened’ attitude.

    I am glad it is almost over!

    For next time tune into the ‘amazing so I glad I had this chance’ part of my West Africa adventures…

    I am off to tackle more madness in preparation for our house sale tomorrow! Somebody ~ anybody wana come and help me before I start pulling my hair out? Oppps too late!

    Whirl

    Wednesday, April 27, 2011

    Our weekend was splendid… Sweet friends, six adorable littles, Easter. We all put our goodbyes far from reality and soaked in the pleasure of our friendship. It was perfect…. Except for Lachlan and his non-sleep fiasco!


    Roger booked me and the children summer flights home…one way!


    I am now realising exactly what that means.


    Good bye to Africa and this wild adventure I have claimed mine over these last years.


    Two weeks of whirling busy ~ good-byes and packing, school to finish, babes to raise and feed, and a Continent to ease out of!


    It is slightly overwhelming and I am sure my voice here over these next days will be but a whisper and hint…

    Birthday Bakery

    Monday, March 7, 2011



    The girl’s birthdays were celebrated bakery style. The goal was to create a bakery kid height, kid style, with kid bite sized foods.



    The little ladies and I made all the tasties, menu prepared by the celebrants their selves! I covered a piece of wood in drawer liner paper I bought from Walmart for $5.00. It set the background nicely. The flag banners were EASILY made out of tissue paper and a stapler.



    Every guest got a stash of bakery currency...buttons. They enjoyed following the price list! We had a cash register set up. They were able to go and choose out their own goodies and then had to purchase them.



    There was plenty of tempting treats along with decorating and delighting!



    The party favours were aprons. Which the kids and parents loved! I bought the white aprons on Amazon for $2.00 dollars each and then sewed the cupcakes on tot he front. So Easy, So Cheap!





    We had a lovely time and our sweet birthday girls were happy bakers! I must mention two very sweet ladies dashed this birthday with generosity… A dear friend made the little doughnuts and sent them over just before needing me to fry them up. They were a tasty hit, Thank you Amy! My talented friend Lori sent us to Africa with a stash of cupcake toppers she had made! We have had so much fun using them in a myriad of ways that I would like to give some to you also, for more details look up in the ‘gift give-away’ tab on the menu bar.

    Another year down, I pray, many more to come!

    God Dey

    Thursday, January 13, 2011



    In Nigeria it is very common to write phrases or prayers on automobiles of all sorts. The other day I read one that writes God Dey! I am guessing in pigeon English it means good-day! Had a laugh at that one. And then yesterday outside my house a ruckus was taking place as a large truck hauling cement bags broke down (obviously for over load on the engine) in the middle of a tiny street! Luckily the guy sleeping on the top did not miss out on any zzzzzzzzz!



    As we are on the topic of Nigeria I thought I would 'snap' what my afternoon looks like here in Africa. Three kids taking a breather with books and a little Bach in the background. Tunde has been frequenting my home regularly these past weeks. It is always a pleasure having him around!

    Lachlan's Nursery in Africa

    Wednesday, December 29, 2010



    I thought you (or at least my Mom and sisters) might like a veiw of my baby-man's nursery here in Africa. It does not compare to his nursery back home.
    To tell you the truth I really like how it turned out. I used all the furniture and 'bones' from Davina's nursery. And just added a few dashes of Nigerian market supplies, like the brightly coloured beautifully woven baskets, also the beads that are strung above his crib and the shakers on top of his toy shelf. I made the paper name above his change table and switched out the pictures from Marion's room over to his room.

    Oh how I love nurseries!

    Oh how I love having a little man in the house, even while he is cutting teeth and trying to crawl!

    xoxo

    Rosaleen

    Dust!

    Monday, December 13, 2010



    The lovely dusty season is upon us! Which basically means insanity! I can taste, smell and feel dust all around me! These pictures were taken this morning and are completely unedited. The haze in the pictures is dust. Because of the thickness of the dust it blocks sun light... everything is rather miserable!

    For those of you new to the seasons of West Africa we get dust blown from the Sahara, it sweeps over Nigeria for a few months. To manage the gritty feeling I wipe down my counters and furniture twice a day, wash my hair and feet daily and I still have grit on everything!

    For those of you blanketed by crisp white snow, think of me and COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!

    xoxo

    Rosaleen

    Tunde

    Saturday, December 11, 2010



    This is my friend. He, Motherless, Fatherless, without a family. He runs errands, washes clothing, carries loads in exchange for a place to sleep and a bit of food.

    He is always the first to greet me. My young shadow. His eyes follow me. I know he is watching, watching and wondering. As we walk he asks me the question, why? Why do I come to visit him? I wait on my words to come, echoing heaven, I turn my eyes to his, and I say the words “because I love you. Because I have a God that loves me so much he led me to you and that same God he loves you more then you will ever know” He waits for more, more balm, more love. I turn him to face the ocean’s roar, I lower my voice near his ears and ask him to feel the wind, the greatness of the ocean, do you feel the power? “Gods love for you is as fierce as the ocean, it is as powerful, and it as grand, I will not always be here, but God will, always, just as this water will always be here.”

    He moves on and the moment is lost, and I am lost. Did he get it, did he feel my heartache, my humble love trying to mirror heaven?

    Together we hand out food. He helps, tells me his neighbours stories, “she has no husband, three kids,” “she had a stroke,” “these, they have no family” and the stories go on and on and faces and names are placed beside the un-comprehensible statistics. The storyteller has chapter after chapter of horrors, I barely breath when he tells me that after the dark business of night, and the thugs and prostitutes have retired, hundreds of children come and make beds in the sand. I ask another and another for confirmation. The truth rumbles, hurts, I am sick with the thought. And feel powerless. Demobilising powerlessness.

    I weep in Roger’s arms. I weep with Heaven.

    Is there a way to change all these horrors?

    Maybe, but it will take a revolution, a solid resolve, each and every one of us, to fill a place in the barrier against this winning storm.

    This Christ Season as you unwrap wealth, will you please, please remember one who is lost. Will you hold your gift tight to your heart and feel its privilege? Will you shed a tear of prayer for one of the numbers in the growing mountain of poverty?

    Will you do it for our World? For that Child lost in the shadows of darkness?

    Dressed up Beauties

    Monday, November 1, 2010


    I will start by saying my girls had a ton of fun. They loved getting dressed up! Marion was Snow~Queen and Davina was a Dancing~Princess (she is dressed like this every day!)It is not my favorite holiday...have to use bug spray beacuse it is 'Malaria Hour", to much candy, spooky and not so impressed by it's origins.

    But it is wonderful watching my beautiful girls dressed up and smiling.

    xoxo

    Rosaleen

    Innocence

    Wednesday, October 27, 2010



    I met her weeks ago, confined to the limitations of a wheel chair ~ confined to poverty. Brown hands reaching, brown eyes begging. A new-born babe clung to the clutches of the grace I would show. The youth of her face and the youth in her arms broke me apart. I gave some change and drove away.

    The haunting feeling of injustice followed me as I cared for my babes as I feed them from the abundance of my wealth, bathed them, clothed them. A mother clung to life, just beyond my doors brimming with goodness. I could not function with her need so near. I returned to the place our eyes first met, to the place I found myself ~ just a world away ~ a young mother. We found each other again. I gave her peace offerings. Trying to calm the wrenching feeling building inside. We talked with limitations of class and language. I drove away.

    Today I entered a foreign world. I left the neighbourhood of my wealth and walked her slums until I spotted her crawling in the sand, her shocked smile lighting the horrendous surroundings.
    Her home. Walls built upon the only place that welcomes her, a spot on earth that hasn’t been claimed. Precarious boards built on stilts, inched above black murky water of a lagoon. Waters of filth the foundation of her survival. Her babes shrills escape through the cracks, rattling my bones, my heart.

    I offer her my intentions. Formula for the baby, nourishment ~ beans, rice, water, soap, bottles, clothing. She receives these gifts and searches my eyes with depth, looking for my soul. I crouch to her level, closer to the stench of the waters, closer to poverty. I return her gaze. Tears fill me. My voice is a whisper. I choke on my words “I’m a mother”. She understands. And presents her baby, ripped by the pain of a recent circumcision. I shutter at the crudeness of his wound. I ask of his age, I gasp, two months, I fight the fear gathering in my eyes. He is babe the size of newness, eyes protruding a gut swollen with hunger.
    I lower my eyes, hiding my pain, the fragility of our relationship hangs on my responses.
    I stroke his arm, brown skin dotted with infection. I ask her of her life. She shares her horrors of abandonment. I ask of the babies health. She says he is fine. She knows, I know ~ It breaks us both. We meet again eye to eye. I tell her, plead with her to ask me, for her ~ for his ~ needs. My voice cracks with urgency “If there is anything ~ anything, please ask”.
    The neighbours have gathered around, prostitutes, beggars, thieves, orphans, they speak above us in a language I don’t understand. Humbly the mother asks for medicine to ease her babes pain. I smile a yes. I promise her a return with more water, more food.

    It was in our parting I remembered to ask the babes name. Innocence. My mind raced around the meaning of his name. A baby far from the innocence of safety. So far from innocence.

    As a bowed my head to duck through the exit of her home I bowed my heart in a desperate prayer. That death would not visit. That Innocence would not disappear into the grave of statistics. I prayed that a light of heaven was shone into the shadows of despair. I begged God to help me fight, as a mother, for this baby born of another world.

    I drove away, again. In the quietness, my driver offered me the words of the neighbour’s language. He retold me their words, ‘Jesus has come wearing a white ladies body, bringing gifts of salvation’.

    I returned to wealth and washed the grime of diseases from my skin. My skin shredded raw as my heart. I re-entered my world. I kissed my boy, white, robust. My heart splitting with praise and pain, Innocence lingering with me, enlarging my love, tightening my hold on the Cross where hope and faith exist.

    School Room Freshness

    Monday, October 18, 2010



    Mondays I enjoy getting our life back into the weekday routine. The girls and I touched up our school/play room. It is always nice to start out the fresh week with a bit freshness in the house.

    I hope your work week starts out fresh.

    xoxo

    Rosaleen

    Market Time

    Saturday, October 2, 2010



    We went to the local market this afternoon. Here are just a few things we saw and 'snapped' (African term for taking a photo.) The things in these pictures seem so normal to me. It was not until I returned home and was looking through the photo's with my Canadian eyes I once again realized what a difference there is between the cultures and lifestyles of North America/Africa. Of course I feel blessed to be Canadian as do most Nigerians feel proud to be Nigerian. Just this week I was chatting with a VERY wealthy educated Nigerian who once immigrated to Canada. He only lasted a few months before he returned to Nigeria "his home" as he said while the stars of patriotism danced in his African eyes. I have come to believe that home is so much based on bias or what is familiar to us, home is more about what culture we fit into and and what seems right to us.

    Hope you are having a colourful weekend...I have heard Canada is falling with Autumn beauty. If any of you have a picture of a tree that is warming your soul with seasonal colour. Could you, would you share your natural wealth by sending me a picture of it? I would love you forever...truly I would!

    Vibrancy

    Tuesday, September 21, 2010



    My first return to the vibrancy and chaos of Lagos streets. Everything takes place on the streets of Nigeria. From young boys selling peanuts, packages that read 'miss bimbo’; business carts selling containers of clean water, little people begging on roadsides. Marion or Roger commented that a drive though the streets of Lagos is as interesting as a National Geographic documentary. I would have to agree!




    First Day of School

    Monday, September 20, 2010



    The first moments of our school day dawned bright with anticipation. Crisp new books brimming with ideas called the girls to attention. Education starts with a well balanced meal, and truly who could resist taking pictures of my students in their school outfits! Please join us for a few moments of our little homeschool.








    The idea for a nature table came from a very inspiring women running with her idea I cleared off a table top and set out the learning tools I have for this science year. The only thing we are missing is the topic of discovery itself, an insect. Have no fear we are heading outdoors in just a few moments to collect ourselves some great African bugs (and trust me this place is crawling with all sorts of bugs!)

    Please follow the link over to another mama's homeschool, and get inspired yourself!

    http://www.aholyexperience.com/2010/09/your-free-ticket-to-gods-gallery-free.html